Is it wrong for me to feel angry because my bf wants me to help plan our one year? ?

Sometimes I just want to be left out of the planning and be surprised...am I just being selfish?
Is it wrong for me to feel angry because my bf wants me to help plan our one year? ?
Nothing wrong with wanting to be surprised. Did you tell him you would prefer a surprise and then he insisted that you help him plan? Or are you angry because he didn't read your mind and know what you wanted without telling him?





If you are angry that he didn't guess what you wanted then be prepared to spend the rest of your life pissed as hell because men can't read our minds.





How about just saying very sweetly, "I'd love it if you would just surprise me." Chances are, he'll be happy to please you if you give him the chance by telling him what you want.
Reply:Haha, thank you. I guess I do forget to actually tell the guy. Report Abuse

Reply:it's fine for u to be angry.... but it is ur one year together. It's not like valentines where he plans all that stuff. @ a time like this it's probably better if u both planned it together. BUT he hsould have something planned ON THE SIDE on that day for you. Thats what I think. Thats where the surprise comes. But I think u should plan ur 1 year with him. I mean... maybe he wants to make sure this special day makes both u and him happy and for him to be happy is for u to be happy dear.
Reply:Sounds like it.





He obviously wants to include you and your desires in the upcoming event. He feels your input is important. This is only year one after all, and he may not have your likes and dislikes totally memorized just yet.





Give him a break. Do you surprise him the same way you want to be surprised? Lead by example.
Reply: Most guys are not into those kinds of things. I hate planning things like this. It bores me to death. I have been married for 18 years. I have to focus on business plans, and execution of those plans. I have to plan presentations and so many other tedious things. Just surprise him.
Reply:yea, im not to good at that either, even if i try to make it a surprise, along the line i ruin it. like i planned an indepent film show and vegan food, and i ruined it by telling her about it.





i guess some guys are just afraid of dissapointing their girls. that is one of my insecurities, i guess. i want it to be great. but doesnt that just show we care more about you girls.. i mean comeon...
Reply:Kind of..maybe he just wants to make sure you will enjoy it..would you rather have the worst night ever b/c he planned things you didnt really care to do or make a plan together and make sure you both will have a great night?
Reply:he just wants your input


and he wants you to be happy


who knows


he might surprise you and change it all


just be happy you have a guy who wants to plan something


for you in the first place


a lot of guys wouldn't at all.
Reply:No, it's not wrong, I completely see where you're coming from.


Just tell him how you feel. Tell him you just want to be surprised and to see what his idea of something special for you both to do is. I'm sure he will understand!
Reply:Unless you have something good planned for him, then yeah your a selfish *****, its not about you alone but both of you together. Why should he do all the work
Reply:yes. the relationship isnt all about you...its about both of you. did you really get angry at the poor guy? he was just trying to be sweet and do something that would make you really happy
Reply:It's nice to be surprised once in a while but it shouldn't make you very mad to have to plan with him.
Reply:If marriage isn't on the horizon after a year, get rid of him.
Reply:maybe he just is afraid of disappointing you.