I am in a live in relationship for the past one year. I've had a horrible time with him. I plan to now break..?

Now, I don't have family or parents who can support me. We both signed on a registered marriage certificate cause his parents asked us to...i was very young then. Later, there was a tiff between his parents n me...and they're not accepting me...hence he came and started living in with me. However, there are horrible fights and we just don't get along. I am planning to break off, but this will be like a scar on me forever...do i need to take the burden all my life? Will someone in India...accept me anytime at a later stage ? Kindly give me your thoughts.
I am in a live in relationship for the past one year. I've had a horrible time with him. I plan to now break..?
Oh, don't be ridiculous, you will be OK. No woman deserves that. Break up if it's that bad. He came to live with you? Boot his butt out. A scar is better than a knife sticking out and hurting you every bump you go, so take it out of you right now. In this day and age any woman can support herself, education or none, that's what a job is for. It might hurt, wait...it will BUT that's what life is about, getting over it and living on. Someone may accept you anywhere darling, not just in India.
Reply:Ok, I give you answer in a different way..





My Boss always use to tell me one thing..





'Deepak never leave something what you have untill you get something better than that..'





I hope this helps you :-)





Also, there are few things which are short terms and few which are long term. I am sure you are wise enough to decide which way to lead.
Reply:Sweetie you can't stay in a relationship like that. You have to get out. You will regret it forever if you don't. If your not feeling it, and don't want to be with him forever then you need to break it off.
Reply:Yes it will be a scar all your life something you will never forget. That's just how this stuff works. You just push on everyday.





Don't about India.
Reply:my dear u r 21st century woman %26amp; now a days people r broadminded.. u will surely b understood... dont worry %26amp; just do as ur heart says... %26amp; best of luck 4 ur future life...
Reply:Hi Pooja,


Sorry to hear abt ur falling relationship and no one around u to support u. I am surprised how u accpted a live in relationship. That realy doesnt work well in India since it is very common guys try to use girls to their advantage.





Anyway, we cannt change what has happened. Now you have to think abt if u really want to part off. Fights, arguments, misunderstanding r all part of family life. starting to run away for that will be never ending in life. Put away the fights and see if u can talk to him abt long term relationship. Tell him that u think things will imporve between u both if u both get married. Looks he is good since he is living with u inspite of no marriage and u not getting along with his parents.





I do agree it will be difficult for u to find a man in india who will acept u whole heartedly. It is a bitter truth. All guys want a virgin girl and it is their wish. Some guy acept u since he feel pity for u may not be the right choice and there wil be no love in that. Anyway, there has to be some compramise if u decid to part off and look for s diff man.





As of now, my suggestion is, try to make it work. Talk to him and fix the legal marriage. I know it is diffcult to get along with inlaws for anyone. Consider them as ur parents, sure u will see some changes.





You have not told abt how old u r and what u do.





Abt emotional support, sure u hv nice frnds around to share ur feelings. Let it be anyone, male or female of any age...just a person to listen to u. That will sure make u imporve ur mental strength.





Msg me in YM if u wish. My id is frndlyvel@yahoo.in


Wish you all the best and happiness
Reply:hi,pooja, these are very common issues who got married at younger age and live in private, this may be due to you feel insecure about your relationship and your lack of understanding. since u dont have any support left behind u , he finds it easy to byepass you and to use you as an emotional outlet, anyway your decision is brave and inorder to prove it right u have to put yourself on in a right track, postponne your idea of searching a new relationship insted try to stabilise yourself by finding a good job once you are into this, you might have got the maturity to find the right person and u can judge this time better, but you have be strong enough to face the problems from your previous marriage and you should never give up, face the world boldly without seeking support from others, this will make your to feel good instead of giving another dissappointment, cheers, need any further help mail me at bas_torpedo@yahoo.com.sg
Reply:pooooooja ....:-))





let me give you small survey .i think that will relax ur mind ...





now a days evrybody is having gf and bf relationship .......and almost 60% relationship .........involves in physical relationship at some stage .............yaar whatevr you have done its not a crime .....i can understand your condition but ...now a days society is changed and people are broadminded ......if i m gonna marry someone ......i m sured she had a past relationship ....nobody accept that ....but ....think other side ....no guy is virgin ...........and they accept this fact ..................so dont worrie you will get your partner ...........you had livin you accept this ...........many girl dont accept this fact ...............but b faithful with your partner in future thats the only concern now a days ...........................we dunn look into the past ...we plan future ..............





i had an a affair ..i love my gf a lot ....and we were very close ..but unfortunately ..she got died in road acident ..............





but it didnt mean ..i turn up virgin again ..........................i can understand your feeling ...bcoz its very painfull when u loose sumone whome u really love ...........................





we can become good friend if you want mail me .........





avanish_cool@yahoo.co.in





Dont worrie ...you will get a nice loving caring partner ..u just need to change your mind and approach ............





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